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This is an attempt to break the ice around certain issues. Issues of child abuse and the possibilities of incest. These are hard and heart breaking realities of the world's societies, our society is not an exception at all. Denial lead us and our children to more problems. Please hear their silent whispers and talk to them. They need us!

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Friday, September 19, 2014

Dear respected fellow citizens, Sorry

Dear respected fellow citizens, Sorry!

I read this editorial of an “intellect” in DAWN dated September 19th, 2014, title “Dear Islamabad, sorry” where words of “Hordes” and “Uncouth” sets the tone of the editorial from the very onset and thus the content of the preceding paragraphs didn't surprise. However, one important factor gets established is that those who are more used to the peace, comfort and charm of the roads and environment of Islamabad, will never be able to empathize or sympathize with what you endure. Living on the humps of the city where the flood water will never reach, they will never know the fear of snakes and pain of everything being swept away right in front of one’s eyes. Their dearest of course has the freedom to shoot us and rape us (with the help of "well trained" and "well mannered force"), but we are expected to accept it and then hold them dear. We will pay for their every comfort, debauchment and incontinency but we will have no access to justice and basic needs/rights.

So I am sorry oh! Citizens of Pakistan and my beloved Quaid that there are still pricks of conscience and venal among us; but rest assure that there is at least one revolutionary rebel and/or a freedom-fighter in their very family, they just don’t know it yet... We will come out as winners and we will win back our identity, and will wash out all the stains and pains that we endured while being under their incompetent, uncommitted, dishonest, uncaring, unreliable, faithless and apathetic leadership.

Tundi-e baad-e-mukhalif se na ghabra ay uqaab
Ye tou chalti hai tujhay ooncha urranay ke liye”

Don’t fear the intensity of opposing-wind, O’ Eagle
It only blows to help you fly even higher.

Tauseef J. Shah
Peshawar, Pakistan
19th September, 2014

Monday, March 12, 2012

Silent Whispers

It is not too difficult for me to look back and recall life without mobile and Internet, but now…it’s a whole different world, called the virtual world. It is fact that the Internet obviously has provided a space where one can express herself/himself, get heard and supported; thus, it does provide a space/platform and freedom from where we can and have been initiating movements/causes. 

It has been a while since I have started reading articles where people have started articulating the experiences and incidents of child sexual abuse and child sexual exploitation. which is a good thing-a positive sign towards resolution of some problems (of course we can understand them only if we are willing to talk about it, discuss it).

 Recently I happen to read an article by Ameena Tariq, posted on Express Tribune Blog, dated March 10, 2012. In her article, she is saying so much about the bitter realities of how safe or unsafe children in our society are.  The article of course, sheds light on, how an adult (in most of the reported situations) takes advantage of his/her status within the family (in particular) and society (in general).  Which is actually reinforcing the fact that children in a “secure environment” of home are not “so secure”, rather are like sitting ducks; If a potential abuser is somehow related to the child or has trust of child’s parents or of the child her/himself then obviously in situation like these the child is extremely vulnerable.

There are various social and cultural norms prevalent in the Pakistani society that lead to these incidents and ensure that children do not readily report any incidents that may have occurred”

Quoting one paragraph from Ameena Tariq’s blog, I have underlined some of the words where I differ with what she is saying, without being disagreeing with her in principle.  

It is very difficult for children to explicitly speak of what they might have been going through (agree), but they do have their own ways through which they do give out implicit signals with a hope that their parents/guardian will understand. The time when a child expresses her/himself is the time when she/he runs out of her/his endurance and patience.  However, by that time most of the damage is already done. The final hope in that case is the person who the child has trusted and shared her/his story with.

Unfortunately, not all of us are equipped to understand those implicit signs and silent whispers. 

There are lots of fears that a child, suffering in hands of an abuser, has to conquer in order to express her/himself.  Those who have survived similar abuse would know precisely that it takes a lot of courage for a child to overcome the element of guilt and fear of being judged. In situations of incest, relationships in the family has its own mechanics and complications so normally even if the story somehow gets surfaced, it is covered with another story or swept under the carpet. This clearly, for one reason or another, shows lack of willingness on parent’s part to stand up for the child. Rest assure that abusers are quite aware of the psychological fears, barriers and bollards of children and their parents and they very neatly manipulate these weaknesses and vulnerabilities of child, her/his parents or guardian and society in their favor.  Which implies that they (abusers) are better equipped in doing what they do.

The current situation is getting more and more alarming; Abduction, abuse and killing of children (both male and female), of as little age as 4 years, is becoming more recurrent.   

It is very important for all the stakeholders including government, social sector, media, educational institutes and society leaders etc to join hands and work together towards the common cause of preventing children from being abused and exploited.  In order to develop a better understanding, more and more researches are required. Parents in particular and society in general need to be equipped with information and knowledge so that they can effectively play their role in providing protection to children that they truly deserve. 


Saturday, September 17, 2011

Mosquito bite

As much as the concern of Dengue is getting more alarming day in and out, the very struggle to somehow find the cure to it and also creating awareness in masses is also a challenge. Some of the experts rightfully believe that probably in the upcoming winter when mosquitoes will naturally disappear may reduce the casualties of dengue but there are still strong possibilities of its (dengue’s) outbreak in next summer.  Being optymistic, at least this 3-4 months period of winter is a blessing in disguise, buying us enough time to properly investigate into this problem and take more effective measures to ensure it does not reappear. 

Many species in nature are disappearing, termed by many scientists as “natural biological process” which is affecting the balance of our ecosystem. The disturbance in the balance of ecosystem bears its own consequences; is this consequence of imbalance in our immediate ecosystem?

Frogs are very important to the ecosystems in which they live. They control bugs and help keep the ecosystem in balance.  Frog’s unique physiology and their ties to both the water and the land can tell us a lot about what’s going on in our entire ecosystem.  Thus, frogs are ideal indicators of the environmental health and therefore our first warning is the frog population.

Now is there a connection between frogs and mosquitoes?

Frogs are natural insect eaters and tadpoles in particular feed on mosquito eggs and larvae like mosquito eater fish (Gambusia), birds, bats, the red eared slider turtle and dragonfly.  Frogs normally lay their eggs in fresh water just like Dengue mosquito does. Frogs are now unfortunately indigenous specie and are disappearing leaving a vacuum probably leading to relative abundance and specie composition of mosquito populations.  If the above mentioned species has its role in controlling the population of mosquitoes then in current situation, a very basic and important question needs to be answered i.e. why is dengue striking more in urban areas compared to rural areas?  Without making an intensive investigation to answer this question, one answer can be is that probably it’s because in rural areas still one can see some number of birds, bats, dragon flies, turtles, fish and most importantly frogs which is not the case with urban areas.

Sadly, the said species (frogs in particular) are being hit from all sides and there are multiple factors which might be contributing to this die off i.e. pollution (water pollution in particular especially because of the use of pesticide), diseases, habitat loss, climate change, competition and even the Ultraviolet radiations finding its way out of the already belated Ozone layer.  

Immediate actions are inevitable in this alarming situation but a more holistic approach is also very much important and cannot absolutely be avoided.

Monday, August 15, 2011

Child labor and Trafficking in Pakistan (Sharing some Thoughts)

Child Labor, Trafficking and the Laws around it (Pakistan)
The issues of child labor and trafficking are complex and tied together. These issues cannot be effectively dealt if they are considered as two separate issues. Normally the economically weak or people on/under the poverty line with hopes of better life in society falls easy victims to abuse and exploitation in labor as well as trafficking. In such cases women and children are more vulnerable, but that does not mean that adults (men) are not trafficked or exploited.

A child forced to earn for the family is the main or may be the only source of the family income. This fact puts a substantial responsibility on his/her young and weak shoulders. In process of disposing off his/her responsibility of earning for the family, this child sacrifices her/his childhood and gets exposed to all the challenges for which she/he might not be mentally and physically ready. Thus, a child may it be a male or female is exposed to all sorts of abuse.

The federal bureau statistics (1996) found 3.3 million children out of 40 million (in the age of 5-14 years) to be economically active. Based on a literature survey conducted by VISION, it was noted that current laws (International, national and provincial) are contradictory to each other on the issue of child labor starting from the very definition of it i.e. convention of the rights of child (minimum age 18 years); in contrast, Article11 of the constitution of Pakistan defines the minimum age as 15 years.

In order to regulate child labor by defining the age of a child is in itself a major challenge. The only few documents that can verify a child’s age is a birth certificate, but if one does not have this document then National Identity Card (NIC) is the only legal document that can verify a child’s age. Even in 2011 not every mother is fortunate enough to be taken to hospital for delivery and still in many situations the traditional methods are preferred. Why? It has its own complications and needs a proper investigation but at least it rule out the possibility that not every or even most of the children can have birth certificate. Similarly, if the minimum age of a child is 15 years (CRC, The Factories Act 1934, The Compulsory Education Act 1994) and he/she can earn for her/himself or family after attaining the age of 15 then the only question that comes to mind “How and what determines the age of a child to see if the child is 15 years old or not?” An individual gets entitled for NIC at the age of 18 only.

Apparently, former legislations are more aimed at regulating the issue of child labor instead of obstructing and declaring it illegal. If the intent of these legislations was to regulate child labor then there should have been proper arrangements and mechanism well I place to ensure the implementation of the said laws. Moreover, realistically a child is not employed with any other intent but cost effectiveness and obedience/compliance. Therefore, regulating child labor with such high expectations without proper mechanism/system to ensure the implementation of laws is nothing but living in fool’s paradise.

There is scarcity and need of new legislations regarding both child labor and trafficking; especially in current political scenario where people are not only trafficked or forced into labor of all kinds but also are used in terrorism. With society becoming more accepting of child working and “earning for the family” it becomes much more alarming than ever.

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

What is so "Civil" about it?

In my short career of few years in social sector, Allah granted me so many opportunities to prove my abilities and gain the kind of experience that any young mid-level manager in any organization can wish for. There are good experiences and there are bad ones. I will speak of one awful experience in particular to express my disappointment as youth of the nation with an intention that these amateur lines may perhaps help few seniors to realize and review their conduct and how their conduct affects us, the youth of this unfortunate beloved country.

This was a meeting of professionals consisting both state officials as well as activists from social sector (NGO’s). The agenda of meeting was to agree upon a grand strategy for combating various human rights violations and abuses such as Human Trafficking, bonded Labour, Domestic violence and early child marriages etc. From first half of the meeting it could easily be deduced that there is less or no coordination between state departments linked with above mentioned issues. The second half belonged to “civil Society”, the finger pointing and “you” and “I” statements were not any different compared to what I have endured in first half of the meeting. The accusations, the transfer of blame from one side to another, bitter language, the height of sarcasm….

The word "Civil society" echoed from all directions for almost the whole day. And I finally had to ask myself                    “what is so civil about this?”

There was so much difference to the meaning of word “civil”. If we take the meaning of how the word “civil” is used in books and how it is defined in dictionaries, this was nothing “civil” and there was nothing civil about it. Now for me... most of these people are inspirations in their own way; they have a background, they have list of achievements and they have been bestowed with some noble responsibilities. We all in our own way look up to these people....

Ultimately, I came out with all these questions in my head and thought of documenting and sharing it. I can only hope that none of us (the youth) become what I have experienced and I hope we prove to be a better a generation and pass on values that should be passed on rather than 
incompetency garbed in bitter words of sarcasm to our upcoming generation(s). I pray that before I fade away, I see a better Pakistan and a nation that think as a nation rather than flocks of individuals with petty interests and limited vision.